Tuesday, December 4, 2007
Snow much fun - NOT
On Wednesday of last week we found out my hubbys grandfather passed away at the neglect of the nursing home he was in. It is such a sad story. This man had a huge hand in raising my DH and his sister when small. He had been suffering from Alzheimer's for several years. Early this year he closed his eyes to never reopen them. But he lived and seemed healthy other than in his mind.
From what I gathered the nursing home did not take time to feed him or give him fluids. I sense a law suit pending or a settlement at least with this case. He began to run a fever and show signs of an infection the weekend after turkey day but they could not find the infection. So they finally sent him to the hospital, but it was too late.
Long story short his body and the organs were shutting down little by little but not from an infection but from dehydration. They had a huge time gathering blood because of this and his veins were not good. They did began an IV but to our surprise it basically flooded him and his lungs and he drowned to death till his heart stopped. He was in no pain they say and there was no saving him as his body was shut down from neglect.
DH and I wanted to go to the service but mother nature had other plans. They were hit in the states with a winter storm on the day we were to travel and that night here at our home we were hit too. It still is spitting snow off and on but it is pretty.
Chasen was also sick. I took him in Friday to the drs for wheezing again. Bronchitis... YEAH! So yeah Alex was on the mend from croup, Chasen was sick now, snow everywhere and 10 hours on the road did not equal out to a good trip there and a trip home in time for school today.
God Speed GrandPa D!
Pork Chop recipe that the family loved
1 tsp garlic
1 tsp seasoned salt
2 eggs, beaten
1/4 cup flour
2 cups Italian Bread Crumbs (I flavored my own plain ones)
4 Tablespoons Olive Oil
1 Can of Cream of Mushroom Soup
1/2 cup Milk
1/3 cup of white wine
Preheat oven to 350
Preheat Oil in frying pan over Med-Heat
Rinse chops and pat dry. Season them with the garlic and the salt. Keep the eggs you beat in a small bowl alone.
Dredge the chops lightly in flour, dip into egg to well coat and cover in bread crumbs very well.
Fry chops 5 mins per side or till brown and crusty (this makes the dish so brown those bad boys)
Put into a 13x9 and cover tightly with foil. Bake 35 mins to an hour. I did around 40 as I ran out of time. Somehow the time cooked = tenderness but mine were fine.
Combine soup, milk, wine in a bowl before the time cooking is complete. Pull the chops from the oven and cover with the mixture. Tightly re-foil the pan again and bake 20-30 mins more making sure its bubbly and chops are cooked.
Serve... I put these with rice and roasted veggies with rosemary. Makes a good gravy for the chops and rice.
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
Head is pounding but with good reasons!!
Tuesday, October 30, 2007
Month in review
Tuesday, October 2, 2007
And the greatest of these is Love!
I am having such a hard time getting Alexander what he needs. I am currently contacting anyone and everyone who will listen to our story. I know, yes I know - there are thousands of stories in the world so what sets us aside? Well because he is my son and he is Love. That is all I need to keep on trucking.
We still do not have an EA for him at school and I just put in the 999th phone call to the school board. Each time I am becoming a little more assertive as I know school just began. Sad thing is this is his education and it is very important to me to give him what he needs medically. Another problem is the school needs help for him but the board has not granted it yet.
I am inches away from grasping anyone in the Media that will listen. I have hit a major road block and it is very disturbing to me. Alex does not qualify for services here. Funny thing is anyone on the Ontario Insurance is suppose to be able to use resources when needed. I found that loop hole in some agencies.
The problem is Alex was not born in Canada so he does not qualify. We are here legally, we carry all the Ontario benefits our neighbors do. We even pay Ontario taxes to fund these agencies and yet they do not even look at my son.
Medically, I have letters of referrals and recommendations for him. I have a chance at this age and till around 8 to really pull him as much out of his spectrum level as possible. Something to do with this is the catch up years. How can I if no one will help us?
To make matters worse, even the agency who does nothing but create a file and give you community resources would not help us. How sad is that to fail one that needs it???
I am tired, I am drained. I sit hours upon hours writing anyone who will listen. I have called the MPP and more. I am not going to stop fighting for my son. How can I live if 6 years from now he is still at square one and I had the chance as a mom to help him become more?
I have not missed the sleep much because I have not thought of it too much. Now I am lol. Chasen is headed to the dr in a few minutes to see what is up with him. I really think nothing major but he is no Chasen. Last tuesday he woke up at 2 am puking and a fever of 102.3. It responded well and came down with Motrin. No more fever no more pukes. But we have not had a good nights rest out of him since then and last night he just whimpered. Here is well wishes for my babe!
I have to get busy too! Because of LOVE (gee I like that word today) my husband and I are taking our first vacation alone in a decade. We have always saved vacation time for visiting family at the holidays and our own family vacations. We choose to skip Disney this year due to end of the year issues and go away. We have no sitters or anyone so we are taking the boys to my moms and spending 3 days alone in a cabin in the mountains. Nothing major and an hour from my moms just incase but still no children. I wish it were longer but its a 2 day trip there and 2 back. It is the best I can do.
Alrighty, no time for proof reading so ignore the typos. I am going to get Chasen to the clinic as they open in 15 mins and I do not want to wait all morning there. I have more calls to make this afternoon and a WorkShop by the Ontario Autism Society tonight to attend....will be another late night as I have to travel to this one.
Hugs to all my friends! I love all of you!
Monday, September 17, 2007
Wonders of Wonderland
The Wonders of Wonderland!
This weekend I went with two other families to Sears Canada Day at Wonderland. I will happily say this will be part of my life in Canada that I will want to remember forever.
When you take 4 boys all the same age + 1 toddler + 3 moms + 2 hubbies = GREAT LAUGHS! We all had so much fun. I really needed out too and this was the time I needed. I am happy to call these two girls two of my best friends in life. Lisa (left) Kimberly (Middle) and me (right) are in this photo that my DH took. I met them through the moms board I help to create a year ago. Now a year later we three run the site. These are those sort of friends who come around because they want to, they dont expect anything of you and they understand what it is like to have a special needs child because they are sitting right next to me on the same bench. I am blessed!
I attended 2 crops last week and got my albums rocking again after a small break. I am going to start hosting some crops and getting out more for my little hobby! Can not wait. I am working on a PJ Crop now. Should be cute.
Well that was our weekend. Just 3 similar families sharing laughs and spinning on teacups!
Friday, September 14, 2007
First Day of School
Where has the time gone? Yesterday, Sept 13th, was Alexander's first day of school. He is in Senior Kindergarten this year. Last year in Jr he did well despite a few road blocks and he was ready to go back to see his friends. I snapped this shot when I asked him if he was ready to see Mrs S, he can not say her name! This was the face I got and I was in laughter when I viewed it on the camera - how fitting? He likes her, or he did last year. Same teacher so that helps with the transition.
I woke him up and he knew it was time. We had been counting sleeps till we go back. We are starting off very rocky already as they do not have resources lined up for him yet and they should by now. I am hearing it is not the teacher or the school but more so the district not having a spare EA (Educational Assistant) for him. Funny thing is he had one last year, no problems. Now that they requested one this year and he has a fitting diagnoses and history they can not seem to get one. It has been a major headache already and mama bird is grinding her teeth getting ready for a final blow. He has to have someone, for many reasons including safety.
He is on early release because he has to be handheld and walked to my car. So I am there prior to the buses with a few other special ed moms. We talk, we chat -nothing like when you are in the pile up with the moms with perfect kids when they frown or half ass nod like your or a lower parenting level when your child comes out in a major meltdown.
I wrote on someones blog this morning, who also had a child with needs to not worry so much about them. That were raising Einsteins - did you know he could not even tie his shoes? Watch out world - here comes Alex!
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
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Monday, September 10, 2007
Do you remember? I do!
I could not get over all the buzz around town. Military Personnel everywhere, even convoys of transportation beginning to group together. The relaxed training look that I was familiar with had disappeared. On a few faces screamed of rage, anger and even some I can still see today as scared. Images I will forever take with me because that was the last time I would see these unknown faces. I do not know if they are alive even today.
Gas stations were lined up to the hills, people huddled around talking. I just did not know what was going on. I called my husband on the cell phone and told him what I was seeing. I truly did not know, that is till he asked me if I had the radio on. No, I did not. I came out of the vets office upset and the radio was the last thing I wanted to deal with. I turned it on and was horrified at what I was hearing. I knew then and there when they were speculating what happened to the towers that it was serious because just in those moments since the planes hit the placeI live in was all a buzz!
It hit our area hard. We were actually told to stay off roads and places were closed by lunch time. They did road blocks and cops with sirens went up and down the road reminding us to stay in. It was not that we were in close danger but right in our town ran the main interstate that connected all the bases directly to the Pentagon. They did not want to hinder what was going to take place. It was a site to see all the Military getting things together before the towers even fell. My heart knew it was going to be bad, very bad.
I turned on my tv and sat like most of the world in tears and disbelief. I remember it all so clearly, all of the images and everything I have scrapbooked for my children, the news - everything is part of me today. I will never ever forget feeling limp and sitting down on my couch just as the tower fell. In an instant the trapped and the living took their last breath. My soul felt heavy - I knew.
I hurt for people I knew who were going to war, I hurt for their families in our area. I cried for the widows and the children who were left to rise in a world where what had fallen had taken a parent -or two. Sisters, brothers, moms, aunts, dads, uncles, cousins all became an instant family even though all I knew was the image of their poster being shown and saying 'Missing'.
6 years later the images have faded and argument has taken place on the real reason it happened. While it does matter, we can not disrespect those who had fallen. No matter if they were heros who died saving lives or a stock broker on floor 97, even the window washer who perished helping others.....it does not matter, they all deserve our respect. Their families deserve it.
I, like you, was able to wake this morning and hopefully will do so all week long as the reminders flood our homes of what seemed like yesterday but is infact ..History now. Those images, the faces and people are burned into history forever. I got out my albums today. I have every soul documented who perished. I have books, magazines, my own albums in my home. I want my children to know History can make you stronger even in disbelief and sorrow.
As most of us still are trying to comprehend how thousands of people died in a single cloud of smoke the reality is some have forgotten what happened that day. Do not become to wrapped up in the politics this week. I know there are many theories floating around right now. If, for just one day - September 11th, remember what started out as a beautiful sunny morning quickly ended in a black dust that kept those lovely people from going home that very same beautiful night. The sun was still bright, the clouds were brilliant. The tears wept and the things you and I take for granted now were taken away in just a moments time.
I sit with my husband and my family at night. No one knows what tomorrow will bring. Say I love you, hug your family and friends tight, dismiss any ill thoughts - because where you are happily sitting next to your loved one another one is crying in pain because they can still remember that fleeting moment that they felt their loved ones pass through them as if to give them - one last touch.
I enclosed a photo that I got in an email. I can not take credit for it nor do I know where it came from. As an American, as a Human - I respect and see more to that photo than anyone who only gives in a 2 second glance.
Sunday, September 9, 2007
Yes I am on Facebook
Goodbye to Summer!
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
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Sunday, March 18, 2007
Spring Photo Session
Getting photos made of the boys is hard as heck. I do not have one photo since birth that Chasen has not been crying in. He could care less of a stranger playing peek a boo or making a silly noise so he can pose for the camera. He hates it! He will lower his little head and just bust out like his heart is broken. Chasen dislikes anyone talking to him that close or touching him and he does not know them. This time was no exception.
Alex of course loves a camera. We had several of those forced 4 yr old grins that looks like he is in pain and he is posing. The one of them together was a fun one to get. It was the first one we did and wow it took forever. Alex was all into laughing because if he posed the puppy she had would poot. Go figure! Sitting Chasen in his lap was the beginning of war war 3. Chasen wanted to lean into Alex and wrestle while Alex did nothing but try an squeeze the life out of Chasen. They would melt to the table in a pile of body heat in pure laughter.
So here are the photos. Not a hair in place any longer, shirts all out of sorts, tears here and there but they are my boys and we were glad to get what we did!
Tuesday, March 13, 2007
"Mommy you puke like Casey"
I am certain Alexander brought this bug home from school to us. How thoughtful it is to share germs. :) He was not himself on Thursday but never threw up. He had some other issues but I assumed it was from his emotional day and from his asthma attack he has earlier. But Chasen woke up Saturday morning with it and it was nasty. Since Chasen clings to me and shares such wet kisses I was next. All that is left is for Dennis to catch it.
What a great welcome home gift to daddy huh? Coming home with gifts for everyone and were all sick. Chasen is still laying around and acting all tired. I do not think he is quite 100% yet.
So here is to a great March Spring Break! No school, but we kicked it off sick with a virus - from Casey!
Sunday, March 11, 2007
Catching up on My Boys
Where has the last year went? If you click to play the photo album you will see how my buys have grown. Most of the photos are from the past couple of months. There are a couple of the kids from September that Alexander thought were 'silly' and wanted added.
Alexander is 4 and half now. It seems like he should be so much smaller. Being just 41 inches tall and 33 pounds he is such a lanky green bean. Just this week were racing around like Super Heroes trying to save the world from a sea monster. Go Figure? But it is imaginations like that where you find space flying heroes and a sea monster all in the same place. Alexander is such a smart little lad. I can not get over some of the things he already knows and is so interested in learning. It is all about making it fun!
Chasen, my babe, is now a toddler and a tantrum thrower in the making. He is so darn cute but such a live wire. He is my eater. At his last visit when he turned a year he was roughly 20 pounds but much shorter than Alex was at this age. He goes soon for his well check and shots so we will get a firm update.
That is my boys! Flying heroes and a drooling couch leg eater. Enjoy the photos.